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Now before we get into the essentials of life coaching, let's make sure we tackle the assumptions of effective life coaching. Now most of the time, the most common mistake
that always happens, the assumption that always we lead with in life coaching and we confuse it with is that life coaching is
about healing the past trauma. Life coaching cannot be about healing the past trauma. Past trauma needs to be healed. Needs a therapist, needs a psychologist, needs somebody who's
qualified to take people there and address it there. Life coaching is not that.
Life coaching, and
effective life coaching, is where you work with
the person's present, maybe a little bit of the past, just to inform the present, but mostly you're working with the future that the person has the
possibility to create. You're not necessarily trying to fix the person. What you're trying is you are working with your client to create a new future, new possibility of them
realizing their potential, help them excel further than they could imagine for themselves. Help them be a better performer. Help them be better in
their relationships. Better in their health. Better in their life overall. So, effective life coaching is not about therapeutically
healing the past of your clients. Effective life coaching is your ability to be able
to create a powerful vision for your clients and then help them fill the gaps so they can realize that vision for themselves faster, more effectively, and more powerfully.
If you want more clarity or distinction between
therapy and coaching, I recorded a video, in exactly the same shirt, that talks about the difference between therapy and coaching. I'm linking it up below this
video so you can go watch it. Now to be a more effective life coach, we need to understand that
what we are really hoping to do in our coaching sessions is be able to show our clients
what is possible for them.
Be able to work with them to paint a really good
vision for the future that is exciting, that is empowering, and also challenges them a little bit so they feel all excited and ready to be able to create
that new amazing future. Now to be able to create and envision that
future, you may sometimes have to ask meaningful, powerful questions that brings awareness to their present and their past. So the first most effective tool to be able to create great impact in your client's life is the ability to be able to
ask really powerful questions.
A powerful question is
aT question that allows for creativity and clarity. So while you're leading
into the conversation, before we start painting
the future for our clients, you want to ask powerful questions that will reveal what's
happening to them in the moment. You want to reveal what may
have happened in their past that informs the present moment, and may be a conflicting part when they're creating a
great vision for themselves. If you want to learn more about how to ask powerful questions, you'll find a link below this video which will take you to a guide which you can read, and you can learn how to
ask more powerful questions. The second tool, that is widely important, is called The Wheel of Life. The Wheel of Life is a
self evaluation tool. The Wheel of Life allows you
to be able to help your clients evaluate their lives in different areas, and also then prioritize which area of their life they feel
is extremely valuable as something that they
would like to work on first.
As a life coach you always have the option to work on everything in somebody's life. But that also presents the challenge that when you're working with everything you tend to end up working with nothing. You tend to see only marginal increases in every area of life, and no significant impact that a client can experience in one area of their life, or maybe two ares of their life. This is where Wheel of
Life really comes in handy. Wheel of life asks your client on what are the different areas of life that are important to them. It tells them to rank on a scale of 10 where they find themselves in that area. And then lastly, ask them
where would they like to be? Where would they like to see
their future outcome to be so you now know which
area has the maximum gap, and which area is the highest priority for your client, which allows you to be able to keep your conversation directed, and you are able to create much more significant impact within that area of life.
Now if you want to take a deep dive on the Wheel of Life, we also have a YouTube video which we created explaining
The Wheel of Life and how to use it in a coaching session. The link to that video is also below. Another essential to be able
to be an effective life coach is your ability to guide your clients to express what's happening for them. This can be done through
communicating with you, which like I said, if you have the ability and you develop the ability
to ask powerful questions you'll be able to do that. But sometimes some clients find it easier to express what they're really
experiencing through writing. This is where journaling as an exercise is very, very effective. This is where you ask your client to write down what is their experience.
Now there is a specific format that you can use for journaling recommended by the Coaching Federation, but on the other hand, you can also let the journaling exercise be an expression of what the experience of your client is right now in that moment. If they simply write down
what's happening for them. It gives them an outlet to
express what's happening. It's the same that happens when you ask them a powerful question and they're communicating back with you.
Now when they get to
express what's happening, most of our clients are brilliant, smart and attune individuals, that as they're expressing
they can see their own faults. They can see the fault in their thinking, and they can find what
they need to course correct to be able to find solutions to fault of their own thinking. This is an extremely productive exercise that allows your clients to
go on a journey of discovery. As they discover more about themselves, their challenges, the
gaps in their thinking, it becomes easier for you to train, educate and communicate any ideas that may be powerful
for them to reconsider their current experience, and find a new experience
within their journey.
This will also help them
unlock any boundaries or limitations they may
have put on themselves, and allows them to be able to go past them as they're journaling through their experience of life. Another really effective tool in life coaching is meditation. You can help your
clients really slow down, really slow down to the speed of life. You can help your clients
reduce their anxiety, increase their confidence. Increase their vision
and expand their vision beyond what they're currently imaging. Help them build a connectiveness to the universe and the greater self by putting them into a meditative state. You see, as you take your
clients to a meditative state, it changes the frequency of the brain.
And as you change the
frequency of the brain, your ability to envision
things into the future, your ability to be able to
have a solid progressive goal, and progressive vision for
yourself changes over time. So as a life coach, if you're able to take your clients to a meditative state and help them explore different sides of them as they are in
this meditative state, help them explore the challenges that they may be experiencing
in this meditative state. Help them explore the vision of the future in this meditative state. Help them problem solve
in this meditative state. You will find that your
clients are getting greater and greater results because you have given them
a really effective tool that they can use while
in interaction with you, and also post interaction with you. Another great tool that you can use with your clients is the five why's.
The five why's is a
critical thinking exercise. It simply begs you to ask why again and again and again until you find the root cause
of doing something. So say for example if a client says "hey, I would really
like to have that sports car." You say "why would you like
to have that sports car?" The answer may be "because
well I need a car." But then you ask "why do you need a car?" well then that client might say "well I need to transport
from point A to point B." And then you ask the question "But why do you need that particular car "to go from point A to point B? "You might be getting any other car." Which may reveal that the
client actually wants that car specifically because of a status symbol or a childhood memory. Or anything else that may be related to that particular experience of them wanting that car and having that experience in life. Which reveals to you the essence of where they're coming from.
Now with one more why, or many more why's, you'll find the root cause of why something is
true and honest to them, and why it's important
to them as a client. This revelation allows you as a life coach to always be able to
go back to that moment, go back to that instant, go back to that information, and reniform your client why they do something. It also helps your client
finally know the reason why some of their desires and some of their challenges
appearing frequently for them. Because they've know finally found out the real reason why. Another reason that they come up with as the first answer, the reason that is deep seated in them, informing them, and also creating new ability
to create that outcome because now every action that they take is rooted in a strong why.
Now there are so many more tools, and so many more ways you can become an increasingly effective life coach. But there's one thing that
if you're really present to you will be able to be an effective coach despite you have a big set of tools or you have a small set of tools. And that is being
present with your client. There is nothing that beats you being able to be present with your client, and really listen to what they are saying.
Not hearing what they say, not the surface level stuff, but really listen. Listen for insight. Not for information. Not to have more data about your client, but to find insight in that information that they may be distributing to you. And at the same point of time, help your clients learn
how to listen for insight instead of information. We mostly listen to find agreements in information that's passed around. But if you look for insight
it can change your life.
If we get the insight, and we're able to, as coaches, help and be present with our clients so that they can continue too take action post the insight, we would have great
results for our clients again and again and again. We don't need to find the
answer for our clients, we need to be able to be present and ask the right questions so our clients can find
the answer for themselves. Now these were quite a few tools that you can use in your
life coaching practice, and you will be finding yourself to be even more effective as a life coach.
An effective life coach is curious, is creative, and is
present with their clients. If you're curious, you're creative and you're present with your clients, most of the time you will
have really effective results with your clients. When you are an efficient life coach, when you're an effective life coach, you will find that your
client produces faster, that they are always
wanting to engage with you even if they have no
particular agenda in mind. They're always curious to hear more about what you're thinking, why you're thinking a particular way, and they want to learn the
skills that you already have. This is a sign that you're
being effective and efficient. Your clients are less in a
stage of worry and challenge, and more in the state of joy and bliss. I hope you go out and use these tools in your
life coaching practice. Tell me some of the tools I did miss out. Some of the tools you
think is a must have, and I must have mentioned it here in this particular video.
Also share with me if some of the tools I mentioned you already use. I'd love to know who
all is on the same page I am when we are creating
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