Limiting Beliefs

 

How to break limiting beliefs, and How to interrupt the cycle of limiting beliefs.

 

One of the things¬† I¬† found out was that a¬† lot of people do not understand truly what a¬† limiting belief is and how it develops.¬† So, let us start at the beginning.¬† Let us start with what is a limiting belief.¬† A¬† limiting belief is merely a¬† belief that you have accepted something that is a¬† negative in your life.¬† In other words,¬† a¬† limiting belief is a moment you have a belief where there is a¬† statement like¬† I¬† cannot,¬† I’m not capable of,¬† or there’s a¬† negative, I’m too young,¬† I’m too old,¬† I’m too skinny,¬† I’m too fat,¬† I’m too smart,¬† I’m too stupid,¬† I’m too this or that.¬† I¬† cannot be loved,¬† I cannot give love,¬† I¬† cannot be light,¬† I¬† haven’t got the capability,¬† I haven’t got the skills, I¬† cannot do this,¬† I¬† cannot do that,¬† that’s a¬† limiting belief.¬† It is when there is a belief inside of your mind of something negative about your skills,¬† your capabilities and who you are.

So where does a¬† limiting belief come from?¬† The first thing we need to understand is that a¬† limiting belief is not natural.¬† Let me explain.¬† Let us assume that you are¬† a¬† child¬† and¬† you¬† know¬† you¬† have¬† just¬† been¬† born.¬† Now¬† you¬† are¬† about,¬† one¬† and¬† a¬† half¬† years¬† old¬† and¬† if¬† you¬† understood¬† the¬† concept¬† of¬† limiting beliefs,¬† you¬† would¬† be¬† looking¬† around¬† at¬† the¬† people.¬† Around¬† you,¬† you¬† notice¬† that everybody¬† can¬† walk,¬† but¬† you¬† cannot,¬† so¬† there’s¬† a¬† possibility¬† that¬† the¬† thought¬† of everybody¬† can¬† walk¬† but¬† I¬† cannot¬† enter¬† your¬† brain.¬† That¬† could¬† then¬† become¬† a limiting belief.¬†¬† Now¬† the¬† limiting¬† belief¬† will¬† hinder¬† you¬† to¬† attempt¬† to¬† walk because¬† the¬† belief¬† says¬† I¬† cannot¬† walk.¬† Everybody¬† else¬† is¬† walking,¬† I¬† cannot¬† walk, so¬† why¬† try.¬† If¬† a¬† child¬† was¬† born¬† with¬† limiting¬† beliefs¬† they¬† would¬† not¬† have¬† the courage,¬† they¬† will¬† not¬† have¬† the¬† tenacity,¬† they¬† will¬† not¬† have¬† the¬† ability¬† to develop¬† and¬† grow,¬† learn¬† to¬† walk,¬† learn¬† to¬† talk,¬† learn¬† to¬† communicate,¬† learn¬† to interact,¬† learn¬† to¬† be¬† creative.¬† Limiting¬† beliefs¬† hinder¬† us¬† to¬† act¬† on¬† things¬† in¬† our lives¬† that¬† we¬† need¬† to¬† take¬† action¬† on.

 

Limiting¬† believes¬† are¬† usually¬† some¬† kind¬† of¬† an¬† external¬† event¬† that¬† happens. Someone¬† says¬† something¬† about¬† you,¬† someone¬† shows¬† you¬† or¬† responds¬† in¬† a certain¬† way.¬† So,¬† in¬† reality¬† a¬† limiting¬† belief¬† is¬† an¬† external¬† lie¬† about¬† you, that¬† you¬† attach¬† an¬† emotion¬† and¬† a¬† belief¬† to¬† and¬† then¬† accept.¬†¬† So,¬† the moment¬† you¬† accept¬† it,¬† see¬† that¬† limiting¬† belief¬† has¬† a¬† very¬† small¬† seed, sometimes¬† a¬† limiting¬† belief¬† starts very¬† small,¬† it’s¬† a¬† minor¬† little¬† thing but¬† like¬† anything¬† in¬† life,¬† if¬† we¬† repeat¬† the¬† same¬† behaviour¬† over¬† and¬† over¬† it becomes¬† a¬† habit.

 

So,¬† a¬† limiting¬† belief¬† is¬† a¬† belief¬† almost¬† like¬† a¬† seed¬† that¬† gets¬† planted¬† in¬† your¬† brain, which¬† you¬† then¬† entertain,¬† in¬† other¬† words¬† you¬† think¬† about¬† it,¬† you¬† remember¬† it, you¬† attach¬† an¬† emotion¬† to¬† it.¬† That¬† repeats¬† the¬† cycle¬† of¬† an¬† emotional¬† experience inside¬† of¬† you,¬† so¬† what¬† you¬† are¬† doing¬† is¬† you¬† are¬† cultivating¬† the¬† seed.¬† You¬† are feeding¬† it;¬† you¬† are¬† giving¬† it ¬†fertile¬† soil¬† to¬† grow¬† in¬† and¬† develop¬† and¬† this limiting¬† belief¬† because¬† you¬† do¬† it¬† over¬† and¬† over¬† and¬† you’re¬† repeating¬† it¬† becomes an¬† unconscious¬† habit.¬† It¬† becomes¬† so¬† strong¬† eventually¬† that¬† the¬† human¬† brain and¬† the¬† body struggle to¬† resist¬† it.

It¬† becomes¬† an¬† internal¬† truth¬† to¬† be who¬† we¬† are¬† as¬† humans¬† and¬† it¬† becomes part¬† of¬† our¬† belief¬† system.¬† The¬† moment¬† it¬† becomes¬† a¬† solid¬† ingrained¬† part¬† of¬† our belief¬† system,¬† that¬† is¬† when¬† it¬† becomes¬† a¬† limiting¬† belief.¬† Because¬† now intellectually¬† you¬† might¬† want¬† to¬† do¬† something¬† but¬† the¬† limiting¬† belief¬† is¬† part¬† of the¬† subconscious¬† brain¬† that¬† controls¬† most¬† of¬† your¬† decision-making¬† processes, so¬† even¬† though¬† intellectually¬† you¬† want¬† to¬† do¬† something,¬† the¬† limiting¬† beliefs are saying¬† you¬† can’t¬† and¬† it¬† starts¬† creating¬† a¬† potential¬† fear¬† of¬† a¬† future¬† outcome¬† in your¬† brain¬† and¬† the¬† moment¬† that¬† potential¬† fear¬† of¬† the¬† future¬† outcome¬† is¬† in¬† your brain,¬† we¬† resist,¬† we¬† hold¬† back.¬† We¬† say¬† this¬† is¬† dangerous,¬† maybe¬† I¬† can¬† get¬† hurt,¬† I should¬† not¬† do¬† this.

 

A¬† limiting¬† belief¬† in¬† its¬† simplest¬† form is¬† a¬† belief¬† that¬† prevents¬† you¬† to¬† take¬† action in¬† an¬† area¬† of¬† your¬† life¬† that¬† can¬† most¬† probably¬† bring¬† you¬† joy,¬† success,¬† love,¬† health, and¬† wealth.¬†¬† Listen¬† to¬† your¬† limiting¬† beliefs.¬† Unpack¬† them¬† and¬† realize¬† every single¬† one¬† of¬† them¬† is¬† the¬† external¬† lie¬† that¬† on¬† a¬† certain¬† level¬† in¬† your¬† mind,¬† you’ve cultivated¬† and¬† allowed¬† to¬† become¬† a¬† magnificent,¬† beautiful tree-bearing fruit¬† but that’s¬† false¬† fruit,¬† it’s¬† a¬† weed,¬† get¬† it¬† out.¬†¬† Replace¬† it¬† with¬† the¬† empowering¬† belief. Take¬† that¬† limiting¬† belief¬† and¬† turn¬† it¬† upside¬† down¬† and¬† ask¬† yourself¬† what¬† the opposite¬† of¬† it¬† is.¬† Get¬† that¬† opposite.¬† Find¬† the¬† behaviour¬† that¬† you¬† need¬† to¬† take¬† the action,¬† you¬† need¬† to¬† take¬† back¬† courage,¬† tenacity,¬† discipline¬† and¬† start¬† acting¬† it out.¬† The¬† moment¬† you¬† start¬† acting¬† it¬† out¬† against¬† the¬† limiting¬† belief¬† and¬† you¬† start realizing¬† the¬† fruits¬† of¬† it,¬† the¬† positives¬† you¬† gaining¬† because¬† you’ve¬† overcome¬† the limiting¬† belief,¬† you¬† start¬† to¬† starve¬† the¬† limiting¬† belief¬† and¬† you¬† start¬† feeding¬† the new¬† empowering¬† belief.¬†¬† That¬† is¬† how¬† we¬† change.¬† That¬† is¬† how¬† we¬† go¬† from¬† zero to¬† hero,¬† from¬† mediocrity¬† to¬† greatness.¬† Challenge¬† your¬† own¬† limiting¬† beliefs.¬† Take the¬† opposite¬† behaviour,¬† apply¬† it¬† in¬† your¬† life¬† and¬† start¬† realizing¬† the¬† fruits¬† and¬† the benefits¬† of¬† it.

 

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